7 Things I Wished I Would’ve Known When I Was 21
How are you doing today? Life’s been pretty good lately this week for me. I’ve been trying to figure out how to improve my writing voice and it’s been kind of tough, but I got some tips from this blog that I’m hoping will help me along the way.
Anyways, I’ve been doing some thinking on what I could write about this week. I feel like a lot of my posts have been kind of bleh lately, so I want something good today. (At least I think it’s good lol 😉 ) Then I thought well, why not seven things I wish I would’ve known when I was twenty-one? Huh, alright.
So, here are the seven things that would have saved me a lot of headaches and money when I was twenty-one.
There Is No Magic Cure All Pill
“Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something” ~William Goldman
What I mean by that is, you’re not going to find some miraculous, amazing thing that suddenly will change your life and give you hundreds of millions of dollars.
Lol, life isn’t that simple.
When I was twenty-one I kept trying to find something that would change everything. People would spout out that you needed to start a blog, an e-business, or have some kind of product. Then all your problems would be solved in less than a year!
I wish I would’ve known sooner that all that crap is bogus.
Granted, you can find success and money that way, but it takes work and time. (Two things that a lot of supposed success gurus fail to mention. I feel like a lot of those people are just trying to sell you on their product without giving you the full story. And usually you have to sign up for their free e-book which puts you on THEIR email list and even then you don’t get the full scoop until you buy one of their products. *eye roll* Meh)
It Takes Work
“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” ~Colin Powell
Like, real work. You’ve got to get your hands a little dirty if you want to plant a garden. Success doesn’t happen overnight. (I wish it did, it would make everything SO much easier!) We have to earn our way to the top.
It kind of stinks in a way, but at the same time, there’s some justice in that. Everyone’s gotta put in the work if they want the results. If you want people to trust and like you, you can’t cut corners.
Again time and work.
There was a great analogy that The Art of Blogging gave in their post Seven Habits of Highly Effective Bloggers that being a blogger is a lot like growing a Chinese bamboo tree. For the first five years it looks like the little thing isn’t going anywhere or doing anything. Then suddenly after six years of blood, sweat, and tears, the tree almost magically bolts up into the sky. (Like where the heck were you three years ago?!)
That’s always been hard for me. I’ve never been very good at loving myself, especially when people hurt me. (I’m an INFJ so I take EVERYTHING personally. I don’t try to. It just kind of happens) so loving myself isn’t my forte.
However, I’m a lot farther along than when I was twenty-one and I can tell you that if you’re sincerely trying to love yourself, it makes a huge difference!
So, take care of yourself 🙂 it may sound stupid, but if you’re thirsty, get some water. Hungry, feed yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself compliments. It sounds super corny (I know, trust me) but it actually does help, especially if you do it consistently!
Don’t Throw in The Towel
“Whatever you do, make a difference. Earn the right to look back at something and say, ‘I did that.’” ~Michael Josephson, Law Professor and Speaker
This is huge. At least for me. Don’t. You. Dare. Give. Up. Seriously.
I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve given up on things for the lamest reasons. Like, I can’t make money with this. Or it’s too hard. Or oh my heck this is going to take FOREVER!!!
Well, so what?
Living the life we want does take time, work, and money. And yeah, it’s usually pretty darn difficult. But that’s what makes it worth it. 🙂
Everything Has A Time And Season
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…” (Ecclesiastes 3)
You’re in your twenties, what’s the big huge rush?? I swear, everyone’s in such a huge hurry to live an incredible life that I think we forget to allow ourselves to take a moment to actually LIVE that incredible life.
At least, that was something I struggled with when I was twenty-one. I was desperate to live the life of my dreams. So desperate. But good grief some people don’t realize their dreams until their forties! Kernel Sanders was in his fifties when he started KFC.
It’s okay if you’re not where you want to be yet. It’s okay if it takes a long time. That’s life, a forest isn’t made in a day 🙂
Be Happy Now
“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” ~Earl Nightingale
Boy I wish I would’ve learned that forever ago. If you keep believing that something has to happen before you can be happy, you’re in for a rude awakening.
You’ll never be satisfied.
That job, date, food, life, house is not going to satisfy you. Sorry, it just won’t. You have to choose happiness and gratitude for what you have right now.
Then everything that does come your way is just a bonus 😉
You Aren’t Going To Be Friends With Everyone You Meet
And it’s okay.
If I’m being honest, I’m still working on realizing that 😛
I love people. As stupid as that probably sounds, I love learning about them and understanding them.
It’s only taken me the last few years to get slapped upside the head to realize that not everyone will be your best friend.
That doesn’t mean you should be a jerk to people lol. But I needed to learn not to expect so much from people I just met. So, look for the people who genuinely care about you. They’re worth keeping.
I honestly could keep going but I’m already over 1,000 words so I’ll stop here, but the biggest thing that I’ve learned is that it’s going to be okay.
Eventually a new day begins. What your problems are now probably aren’t going to matter in ten years, so keep on smiling! 😀
Thanks for being you and have a beautiful day!