Fighting Your Fears
If you were to ask me what my greatest fear is I would tell you, hands down, I’m afraid of the dark. It’s true! I am absolutely 100% afraid of the dark!
I know, silly right? It’s one of the most cliche’, ridiculous things that a girl could be afraid of.
But let me explain. It’s not necessarily the dark itself that I’m afraid of. I mean, darkness isn’t really anything but the absence of light. No. It’s not just the dark that makes me nervous. It’s whatever’s lurking in the darkness that I fear.
When I was little, probably five or six, the creepiest things would always happen to me in the middle of the night. I swear there was one time I was staying up reading and my chair moved in the corner of my eye!
Boy, you better believe I ran out of there and slept in my parents’ bed that night!
And it never really helped that I’d have nightmares leaving me curled up in a ball waiting for a velociraptor to claw into my back. Yeah… I saw Jurassic Park when I was way too young 😛
Fear is a valid emotion
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~Nelson Mandela.
We all feel it. It helps us stay safe. It’s that gut reaction that protected us against predators and enemies in the wild. However, how often has your fear stopped you from doing something that might’ve changed your life for the better? Now that’s something to consider.
So, what are you afraid of? What’s holding you back from fulfilling your dreams? Write it down. Once you can recognize what you fear, you can take the steps to conquer it.
Find A Method To Cope With Your Fears
“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyways.” ~ John Wayne
No matter how bright the day was, I’d always have the night to look forward to. Because I was a night owl, that meant I was the last one awake in my family. Which meant I had to turn off all the lights.
When the time came for bed, I would press my hand over my heart and imagine a huge shield wrapping around me. Then I’d leap down the stairs, flip off all the lights, run up the steps, and slam down the rest. In total darkness, I’d bolt down the hallway and hide in my bathroom until my heart calmed down. It’s pretty silly, but it worked for me.
Find out what works for you to cope with your fears and make a plan of action. Do some research. Find out what other people have done to get over their own fears and copy them. You may always have your fears, but they don’t have to stop you from living your dreams.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
You know, I still get afraid of the dark. I still get nightmares about velociraptors (It’s really dumb). Sometimes I have to keep a light on at night or else I can’t fall asleep. But that hasn’t stopped me from moving out of my parents’ home. That didn’t stop me from working in the wilderness for 8 months. And it won’t stop me in the future.
Whatever it is that you fear, keep finding ways to fight it. Keep fighting and keep trying. You’ve got this!