5 Ways to Take Responsibility for Your Life
I want to tell you something that was a slap in the face for me a few years ago. The only person keeping you from doing what you want to do in your life is yourself.
Kind of stinks huh? That person staring at you every day in the mirror is the only one stopping you. All of your dreams could be your reality if you get up, dust yourself off, and go for it.
So, today I wanted to talk about some ways that you can take responsibility for your life and go for your goals.
Recognize That This Is Your Life
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” ~ Bob Moawad
In order to take responsibility for your life you have to realize that this IS your life and that you have control over your actions. I can tell you right now, nature has the last laugh. Life can and will rock you to the core and you won’t have any control of the situation.
However, you do have control over how you handle the situation. And that can change everything.
Stop Making Excuses and Start Finding Solutions
“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” ~ Dale Carnegie.
I could probably think of a thousand excuses why I can’t go to Hawaii. Oh, it’s expensive. I don’t want to go by myself. Who would want to save up to go with me? I can’t take off from work. And on and on the excuse reel goes.
But you know what? There are plenty of women who travel solo these days. Yep, it’s true. Also, I bet I could find someone to go with me. It would take planning sure, but I bet someone would! And my job has always been pretty chill about vacation time.
It’s that easy.
All you gotta do, is flip your excuses on the head and start imagining solutions.
Okay, so I guess it’s not that easy. However, it is possible. It just takes practice and a willingness to try something new, maybe even a little scary, but it’s SO worth it if you can really start living the life you want.
“An Investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
In your quest of taking responsibility for your life, you’re going to have to learn some things. And that doesn’t always mean going to college. (I could list a lot of positives for going to college and a lot of negatives. It really blows down to what’s right for you.)
Get some books. Read history. Study people who are successful and are living their dreams right now. Emulate them. Reading this blog is a good start, but there are TONS of resources out there that can help you on your way.
Develop Good Habits
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford.
When I say habits, I don’t just mean physical actions. What you allow yourself to think about is a habit.
When I was growing up, I developed a nasty talent for blaming myself for inconsequential things. It got to the point where if I couldn’t figure something out, I just figured I was an idiot.
When my quest for a different life began, I started to see myself in a new way.
I remember once being backstage with my stage crew working on lights and not being able to open one of the back fixtures. I kept trying and trying, but the dumb thing wouldn’t cooperate! As I worked, I grew angrier at myself. I must be an idiot. Any person could open this!
My stage manager comes up to me and asks if he can try. I give it to him and he tries to twist it off.
It doesn’t work.
It was like a lightbulb flashed above my head. Just because I can’t figure something out doesn’t mean I’m stupid!
Eventually we did manage to get it off, but the point I want to make is, what are you allowing yourself to think about? How do you see yourself? Are you your own best friend? Or worst enemy?
It makes a huge difference. Changing your perception of yourself will change your world.
Love and Forgive
“Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr
This is something that I struggle with. It’s so easy to get caught up in our problems that we forget the people around us who are fighting and trying every day like us. And it’s easy to forget that you, yourself are also doing the best that you can.
If you do the same thing I do and tend to blame yourself for things, it’s okay. Learn to recognize that pattern and flip those thoughts on their head.
When you feel that negativity coming, stop.
Imagine what you would say to your best friend. And say those words to yourself.
“He couldn’t win, but he kept running. And when the storm caught him, it didn’t matter that he’d died, because he’d run for all he had… We all die in the end, you see… So I guess what truly matters is just how well you’ve run.” (Sanderson 1202)
It’s your life. Make it the best life you can 🙂
If you’d like to read more, here are a few other articles I found on this topic. I highly recommend the series that Forbes did, it’s really good!
Sanderson, Brandon. Words of Radiance. Tor Fantasy, 2014.