Five Ways to Cope with Change
I hate change.
I’ve always hated it.
Change means saying goodbye to something I’ve grown comfortable with. It means I have to be tossed back into the frying pan of uncertainty bringing on a whole mess of anxiety and sorrow.
…Have I said I hate change? 😛
Yet, change seems to find itself in every aspect of our lives. (Whether we like it or not.)
I felt like change would be a good topic for this week because I’m in the midst of a huge change in my job. With the turning of seasons, many of my co-workers are now moving on with their lives and going to school and elsewhere. It makes me feel like the last little puppy left in the cardboard box who has to wait just a little while longer to find her place. :/
After spending so much time with these amazing people in the wilderness, laughing together, singing together, suffering together, and crying together, they’ve become like family to me. I don’t want to let that connection go.
It’s hard. It’s hard to be grateful when I may never see them again.
So… for my wounded and crying heart, I wanted to address change and how we can embrace and welcome it, instead of fight it back tooth and nail.
Enjoy Every Moment of Every Day
Things are constantly in motion. Death, job loss, debt, moving… life is constantly changing for better or worse. Worrying and stressing about those problems only makes them become mountains impossible to climb.
So, take a step back.
Change your train of thought to something different. Find something small that you can smile about. Something like a child’s laugh or spending time with an old friend. Find joy and gratitude in the present.
Laugh despite your hardships.
Listen to Music
“Where words fail, music speaks” ~Hans Christian Anderson.
Music has always played a vital role in my life. Having a song in my heart gives me the courage to do difficult things.
According to Psychology Today, “music therapy has demonstrated efficacy as an independent treatment for reducing depression, anxiety and chronic pain.” Music has a way of lifting up the soul when all else fails. It can be a powerful tool to help you go through your change.
It’s not goodbye, it’s see you later.
I don’t know your personal beliefs or religious viewpoints, but the idea that even if I may never see these people again in this life, perhaps I may see them again in another life.
That gives me hope.
Believing that this goodbye is only temporary brings me excitement for the wonderful reunion in the future.
Change Your Perspective
I believe that everything happens for a reason and the experiences that we go through are meant to teach us important lessons.
Try asking yourself what you’re supposed to learn from this experience. Maybe this hard change is leading you to a once locked door that’s opening up to new and wonderful opportunities.
You never know 🙂
Make a list of 20 things you can do to treat yourself and then do 3 of those things each week or month. It could be anything from getting a massage or buying ice cream and watching your favorite movie. Doing something that brings you joy helps to cope with the pain of changes that can and will happen in your life.
In summary, change can be hard and painful, but there are things that we can do to cope. Instead of letting life slap us around, we can take the reigns and move forward, letting the change be our strength.
I’m sad to say goodbye to so many remarkable people who have changed my life. But I’m so grateful for all of the memories I made with them. I know that no matter where they go, their lessons will always be in my heart.
I want to wish you all the best in the changes that are happening in your own life. I hope that some of these tips may help you transition through successfully and that you can find joy in every day of living.
if you have any other tips for dealing with change please mention them in the comments. What has helped you in the past? I’d love to hear!
As always, thanks for reading! 🙂
(Edit: I wrote this post over a year ago and it never saw the light of day. Even though I’m not in the same place I was, I still think these principles are useful and I hope they help you with whatever changes you’re going through.)