Learning to Trust Yourself
“Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I want to share an experience with you that I had recently. It really struck me and has shed some light onto my heart song.
My current job requires me to be out in the wilderness 8 days out of 14 every week. It’s exhausting and disheartening, but also refreshing and enlightening. Each day and week brings a new set of challenges as I’m working with youth and surviving with minimal supplies.
Recently, I made the wonderful discovery of being able to create a hammock with the sleeping gear provided. It was amazing being able to sleep in the air rather than on the cold ground. And while learning how to create this ingenious little invention, I discovered something about myself.
While testing out my hammock for the first time, I was a little nervous to put my full weight onto it. I wasn’t sure if the knots were going to hold and I didn’t want to have the unpleasant experience of my face hitting the dirt.
Anyways, my co-worker sensed my uneasiness and told me to just trust the ropes. “They’ll hold.”
My immediate thought: “I trust the ropes. I just don’t trust myself with the ropes.”
It was like a light switch flickered on in my head. Why don’t I trust myself with the ropes?
Suddenly a long list of questions went through my head.
Why don’t I trust myself? Has this affected other areas in my life? If I can’t trust myself, does that mean I have a hard time trusting others?
Oh, it went on and on while I sat on my hammock. (Believe it or not, it did hold my weight on the first try :P).
And it just got me thinking, how do I learn how to trust myself better?
I’m still working on this one, but I do have a list that might be a good start for learning how to trust yourself better. If you have any suggestions on what I can do to trust myself, please comment!
Tip #1 for Learning How to Trust Yourself: Open Yourself up to Trusting Yourself
It may seem a little redundant, but it could be that you don’t even know that you lack faith in yourself. I certainly didn’t until all those questions streamed through my mind.
It might be wise to take a few minutes and ask yourself if you do feel like you need to gain a little more trust in yourself. Who knows? Maybe asking that question will open the door to a new world of possibilities and positive change!
Tip #2: Be Kind to Yourself
Look in the mirror right now. I mean it. Go and do it and tell yourself that you are an incredible and amazing human being. You have dazzling potential and you are worthy of trust.
We truly are our worst critics. If you can’t learn how to be kind to yourself, how can you ever expect to trust yourself? So do yourself a favor and be kind 🙂
Tip #3: Listen to your Heartsong
Your intuition is a powerful thing. I feel like this quote goes well with this tip:
“Come from the heart, the true heart, not the head. When in doubt, choose the heart. This does not mean to deny your own experiences and that which you have empirically learned through the years. It means to trust yourself to integrate intuition and experience. There is a balance, a harmony to be nurtured, between the head and the heart. When the intuition rings clear and true, loving impulses are favored.” ~Brian L. Weiss.
Learn how to listen to the voice inside of you that is difficult to hear. Learn to listen to what you are feeling. Follow those crazy dreams of yours and reach for the impossible 🙂
Tip #4: Try New Things
It’s scary to try something new. I was not excited to look like an idiot if my hammock broke. Especially because I’m supposed to be knowledgeable about those sorts of things in my job. But, I had to be willing to take the risk of looking stupid in order to learn the skill of making a hammock. (And boy, I’m so happy I did!)
Oftentimes it takes biting the bullet and diving into the murky water in order to lose whatever is holding us back. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
Tip #5: Don’t Give Up
If you’ve failed in the past, there’s always a chance for a New Beginning. It takes a lot of scrapes and mess ups before a child learns how to ride a bike. The same goes for anything.
If you feel like you’ve done the unthinkable and can never trust yourself again, throw that thought away. Just crumple it up into a ball and throw it in the trash. Read Tip #2 over again and pick yourself back up.
You can do it 🙂
I hope that some of these tips help! I’ll definitely keep applying them as I learn how to trust myself more in the future.
Have an Amazing Day!